Wednesday, November 04, 2009

All you need is love

I've sort of abandoned this blog in favour of microblogging on Twitter in the guise of @TheSQLSquirrel, but yesterday Danielle at @Urban_Dog said something that gave me the urge to write an actual proper blog post:

It is important to love your dog more than you need your dog to love you. Selfish love causes behavioural problems.

It's such a simple concept. For me anyway - but then my spiritual beliefs are entirely founded on the concept of love, and giving love - and of intention. These two are formidable when combined. With humans, we are all naturally open to energy when we arrive in this world, but it doesn't take long for most people to gradually close themselves off. It's a natural shielding mechanism - we instinctively protect ourselves from all the negative energy we are bombarded with every day, and very few of us are lucky enough to be given the tools to allow us to remain open without coming to harm.

With animals, it's another story. They remain very open to energetic influences. Before you think I'm heading off in some New Age hippy direction (OK, I am - sort of), let me explain what I mean. Animals, using a combination of senses - sight, hearing, smell - can often tell what us humans are feeling even if we think we're masking it. According to what I've read, this is generally believed to be down to the interpretation of body language (visual cues), tone of voice, and also smell. We are all animals, and as such we emit chemicals which allow other animals to sense our state of being. Research into this ability in dogs, for example, has given us a whole variety of sniffer and assistance dogs that are trained to find contraband and detect things like the onset of epileptic fits or low/high blood sugar.

How do these amazing abilities allow us to better communicate with our animals? Well, I'm no behaviourist (I wanted to be one but when I looked into it originally you basically had to train as a vet nurse first, and I'm waaaay too squeamish), but I have had animals or had friends with animals all my life. I am also an energy healer, although it's not something I do nearly enough with.

What I have learned over the years is that if I let animals know I love them - if I clear my mind of all other feelings, especially fear and stress - animals almost invariably relax and become more receptive. It's useful with animals who are sick or panicking, although I find it hard to overcome my fear in some situations. More importantly, in every day terms it allows me to form a deep bond with my pets. I make sure that each of my pets (two cats, one dog) gets a period of my undivided attention as close to every day as I can manage, and in that period I stroke or cuddle them, or just put a hand on them, and I concentrate on how much I love them. It's important that it's unconditional love - no strings attached.

With Mollie, getting lots of love and a fair amount of cuddles from both us and next door has helped her to settle into a lovely, relatively calm dog. She starts each morning by coming up the bed for kisses (she sneaks from her crate to the bottom of our bed in the wee hours) , and gets lots of love during the day. She is open to us, when we need her to be, and if we make sure we're in the right frame of mind - open, relaxed - she is very responsive. I haven't got the behavioural knowledge to teach her tricks, but she will follow the direction of my hand if I want her to go in a particular direction, for example.

Knowing that they are loved unconditionally is, I believe, enormously empowering for pets. In the same way that people in a happy marriage, or children of loving parents have that foundation to work from, it provides an amazing baseline for our animals to work from. In my experience, it makes them more confident and more open and responsive.

An animal that is only loved when it does the right thing will always be nervous of the love being withdrawn, and so will be lacking in confidence. This in turn can lead to them making mistakes, and it can lead to a vicious circle of bad behaviour and punishment.

All it takes is five minutes every day. Sit down with your animal, at their level. If you can, touch them or make eye contact. Now say, out loud or in your head, "I love you and I will always be there for you, no matter what you do". Believe it. They will too. Make the same commitment to your pet that you would to a marriage or to a child. If you can't make that commitment to your pets, I honestly believe that you should seriously consider whether you should have any in the first place.

Wednesday, April 22, 2009

Poorly doggit :(

Last Thursday, we came home as usual from work (we car share, which gets all the "how was your day" stuff over before we get home as well as saving petrol and parking fees) to be greeted by our neighbour who kindly looks after Mollie during the day. Mollie also came out to see us and skipped about like a puppy in her usual excessive greeting routine - but Marlene (neighbour) informed us that she'd spent the whole day curled up on her lap, and had been crying and limping and refusing to eat, drink, or (more unusual for Mollie) play.

We had a quick check of Mollie but couldn't find anything except some swelling behind her left shoulder, so decided to observe her for the evening and overnight. She ate well, which was a relief, but overnight she cried whenever she turned over and it was obvious that she was stiff on that left leg and in a lot of pain. The following morning it was no better, and we were shattered, so both took the day as holiday, and I got Mollie booked in to the vets. By this time we had both treated Mollie - Tracy with some Shiatsu and myself with some energy healing - and she seemed happier but still in pain and unwilling to move much. We were sure she'd pulled a muscle, and the vet confirmed this and prescribed painkillers and rest.

Ever tried to keep a Jack Russell calm? Sod's Law would have it that we've had the most amazing weather, and as a solar powered dog Mollie wanted to be out there playing! But for a few days you could see that she really needed the two tablets a day. Yesterday she went down to one tablet, in the evening, and Marlene reported that she behaved as normal through the day - playing with her best friend Marley for a bit and also chasing a ball in the garden; although she wasn't allowed to push herself too far. We think that she'll be fully back to her normal self by the weekend, which will be great! Having a doggit that wants to run around but can't is a nightmare, especially with such a vocal breed!

Tuesday, April 14, 2009

Mollie & Trixie playing

I've mentioned Trixie before, she's my in-laws dog - a JRT x Yorkie. We went up to visit on Sunday and after lunch they got down to business while we sat around chatting:

Tuesday, April 07, 2009

Watching a fly

Couldn't resist taking this yesterday evening. Mollie was on the lookout for a fly. 'Scuse the boxes in the background!

Wednesday, April 01, 2009

Superdog rescues ball from tree!


If you have a dog who is obsessed with tennis balls, they will retrieve from almost anywhere...including halfway up an old oak tree at Bradgate Park!

Monday, February 16, 2009

NZ Government introduces prohibitive internet laws

Please consider joining the online protest at the new NZ internet laws. They don't protect individuals but are purely and simply designed to protect big companies and quite frankly, they're just insane: http://www.geekzone.co.nz/juha/6247

Thursday, January 15, 2009

(Dog Magazine.net) Outrage as healthy greyhounds put to sleep at retirement

Local greyhound rescue workers have expressed shock and outrage after a trainer who races dogs at the Henlow track had four healthy greyhounds “put to sleep” by a Hitchin vet.

Joanne Page, who trains greyhounds at kennels near Sandy, took the ex-racers to be “put down” at Berry House Vets in Hitchin last Wednesday.

Her actions caused shock and outrage throughout the local branch of Greyhound Rescue West of England, after one of their volunteers, who was in the vets at the time, tried in vain to save the dogs.


The rest of the article can be found here:

http://www.dogmagazine.net/archives/1725/outrage-as-healthy-dogs-are-put-to-sleep/

Greyhound Action are calling on the public "not to attend or bet on greyhound racing" - although I have to ask myself, wouldn't that just cause more dogs to be put down as races are cancelled and the sport declines?



Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Mollie's little family

On Sunday we went to Elvaston Castle, near Derby, and met up with Mollie's previous owner and her two dogs Murphy and Deezal.

Murphy - in the middle - is the father of Mollie's pups; and Deezal is one of their pups. Aren't they a good-looking little family? Mollie got on really well with both of them, although Murph had a bit of a one track mind and kept trying to get his leg over. It was really lovely - and all three dogs were utterly shattered afterwards!!